Category: Dating and Relationships
i do not know if i am the reason for that or no. i guess i am of some sort. but living with a person who only cares about himself is just horible. to hell with me and my daughter, the important thing is for him to be pleased. and now, i am struggling for 15 months to get my divorse and i still have to wait for another two months, do not know when will this end. but i am really really dispratte, hope this nightmare will end soon.
hope it works out for you. if you need to talk I am here.
Rose,
I am very sorry to hear of your troubles, noone deserves to be treated like that. Marriage is about many things, not the least of which is teamwork. It seems that you are getting very little of that. Like the previous poster, I am here if there's anything I can do, even if it's just someone to vent to.
Keep at it then, and hopefully soon you'll get out of that situation and be able to start getting things put right. You'll be in my thoughts.
Cheers,
Simon
I II agree with the posters above. having been through a divorce its never easy. In my opinion you have your daughter to consider, and if your not getting the support and caring you both need, then sometimes its better to go your separate ways. I just pray its a peaceful divorce. Good luck!!
hi heba,
wel sorry to hear about yur mate being all for himself,and yu need someone who wil be like a team,and help yu,and yur daughter.
i'm here if yu need to talk or need a shoulder to lean or cry on.
big hugs,
tony
just know that if you cry on Toney he'll want to take your husband's place
LOL Candi.
to the poster of this topic, I too am here if you need someone to talk to.
best of luck, and you're in my good thoughts.
lol to the poster a couple posts back, and good luck to you, divorce is never easy just keep your head up and try and be strtong for your daughter, hey maybe some day you'll find someone who isn't narsisistic, that's not cool, hey in there and hope your divirce goes well and peaceful.
the problem guys is not in the fact that i will be divorsed or that i will be the only one who takes care of my baby, but the problem is that my X husband does not want it to go peacefully, he claims that he wants me and my daughter back, yet he has done nothing to proove that, on the contrary, he did not see her since he left us last year except three times, not even ask about her with a phone call.
i hope he would be considered a closed page in my life that i will never turn back to.
I hope so too, Rose...for everyone's sake. no one deserves that kind of treatment.
Hi,
First of all, I am sincerely sorry that you're going through this. Divorce is never easy; and it's even more difficult when you and your husband aren't agreeing about anything at all. Is there any way you could get an order against him, if it ultimately came to that?
Also, it sounds as though he's desperate to get you back, but isn't willing to actually do anything to change the situation (and the fact that you can recognize this in him is a good thing). Again, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, and hope you have a support system in place where you live. You shouldn't have to go through this alone.
hi rose, i'm married, and divorce is never easy. Ultimately the saying goes "you're not tired of something until you do something about it". In this case you must be tired because you're doing something about this. Marriage is supposed to be a sacred union ordained by god. It's team work, and that's something you're not getting. Normally i don't encourage divorce, and normally i'd say put it in god's hands and if it's his will that the two of you stay together, then so be it. In your case, though, for the sake of that baby, if he's not willing to be a father, divorce him, but don't diny him access to his child, and please, whatever you do, don't subject that poor innocent child to a custody battle. Remember the differences that you two have are between the two of you, don't let this divorce get so nasty that you both start using the child against each other. I hope and pray, that none of this offends you, as my husband is going through a custody battle for his little girl. I pray that god will allow this to be a peaceful divorce.
Hi sweet roase. I am sorry you are going though this. As for someone like me who has never been married, I don't know how it could be but I'd imagine horrible. I hope this is peaceful divorce for you too. Hugs, i'm here if you need to talk.
thank you so much for all of you who replyed to my post. your words have been a great comfort for me and i hope that this will be ending soon.
best regards
Please keep on writing here if it helps.
i'm so sorry your going through this. noone deserves to be treated like you have been by anyone, let alone someone who you loved with all your heart, and decided to spend the rest of your life with, only to findout that he isn't the person you thought he was. while it's sad that your baby won't kno her daddy, it's better you get out while she's still a baby, cause if you didn't then there could be a chance she could grow up thinking that that's the way she's meant to be treated by a man, wich we all kno that it's deffinitly not. i also kno that it's hard for you because you loved him, and i can only imagine the heartbreak your going through at this time, but another poster said something that i agree with, and that is, for your child's sake, don't end up using her as a tool in your divorce. sure, he needs to pay child support for his daughter, and you should go after him for that, but she's not an object to be thrown around whenever either one of you don't get your way, and i'm in no way saying that that is what you yourself is doing, but it sounds like he is, or will try to. so you as a mother have to decide what's best for your baby's well being and safety, but don't close the door on her father being in her life, unless you absolutely have to.
her father? she just knows him from his photo which i put in a fram beside the t.v set, he did not see her in 1 and half years except 3 or 4 times. he says that he wants her, yet, cause he does not like me he never asks about her. well, unconsciously, i am afraid that he wants to take her away from me as a way of making me suffer, he is the type of person who would do that. i am afraid that if i let him see her or take her out, he would not return her to me, what shall i do?